100 basic rules during adolescence
Published Date 2018-04-10
ISBN
9786050820614
Number of Impressions 5th Edition
Language Turkish
Number of Pages 216
Skin Type Hardcover
Paper Type Book Paper
Size 14.5 x 19 cm
LOGIN
To many parents, puberty feels like a problem period.
However, adolescence is not a problem period, it is a period of mental purification.
It is a period when the problems experienced in the past years and turned into an internal accumulation are expressed with aggressiveness, irritability and reactivity ... the adolescent calms down and calms down as they are expressed ...
For this reason, preventing the behaviors expressed by the adolescent means preventing him from doing internal cleaning.
In this book, we tried to collect the most basic information necessary for families to go through adolescence more calmly and peacefully.
This book was written not only from the eyes of an expert, but from the experience of a father who had encountered three adolescent children ...
I hope that both these experiences and the expert perspective will contribute to the parents' having a more harmonious process with their children ...
Have a good reading ...
Adem Gunes Istanbul, 2015
NOTE OF THE PREPARATOR
The process of preparing this book for publication meant the discovery of the "most special" period of human life for me ...
This transition period was an astonishing opportunity for both parents and children.
Adolescence means not only physical change, but also a change in emotions ...
The adolescent child's posture, gaze, and placing his hand meant something ...
Not being lazy, sleeping too much, for example ...
He talks a lot, it's not babbling ...
His objection to everything was not out of bad temper ...
As it turns out, the inner world of the adolescent expanded with the problems he experienced.
His bad temper meant solving the problems he accumulated as a child ...
It turns out that this turbulent period was the time when the foundations of marriage and business life were laid ...
While working on this book with Adem Hocam, I thought about how important adolescence is in each line.
I felt sorry for the parents who were unaware of this importance and the children who had to live with them.
I went back to my own adolescence years, painfully and sweetly ... And I wanted to live that period to the fullest with my parents ...
I hope this book reaches out to anyone dealing with a teenager. It becomes an unwavering guide at both awareness and solution point.
I wish you all pleasant reading.
Gonca Anıl İsparta, 2015
CONTENTS
INTRODUCTION 13
NOTE OF PREPARING FOR PUBLICATION 14
1 There are no silent adolescents, there are parents who do not have communication skills 16
2 What adolescents are most nervous about is
is being forced to talk and talk 18
3 A person who has no one to spoil does not have puberty 20
4 The order of the adolescent starts with having a role in the management of the house 22
5 adolescent girls are just as disconnected from their father
be prone 24
6 A girl who spends her adolescence with a tough mother, she is the mother
becomes intolerant to the child when it occurs 26
7 When an adolescent is in the most difficult time, he
is the moment it is attributed 28
8 A calm parent heals the aggressive adolescent, not medicine 30
9 The most distinctive feature of the weak adolescent is the effort to show himself big. 32
10 The greatest injustice done to today's young people is 'to be like yourself'
instead, it is the imposition of being like others 34
11 Adolescence is the period when human behavior is the most inexperienced. 36
12 The strongest need of adolescents is independence 38
13 The greatest need of adolescents is freedom within belonging 40
14 young girls love it too, this is not an anomaly,
being human is itself 42
15 Adolescence is not a problem period, but a manifestation of childhood problems 44
16 Cultivated in childhood, harvested in adolescence 46
17 Adolescents like to give reason, not to think 48
17 The silence of the adolescent is more dangerous than his irritability 50
19 The silence of the adolescent is not always a sign of maturity, but often anxiety 52
20 The adult who resembles young people, not to them, develops himself 54
21 House takes on style only with young children 56
22 The adolescent's vulnerability to impulse is not always negative, it is youthful for adult fatigue.
23 Understanding young people gives youth to soul 60
24 Adolescent's aggressiveness is self-therapy, preventing aggression is preventing therapy 62
25 Adolescents are reactive to injustice 64
26 Young people find emotional intimacy not in 'strong', but in 'just' person. .. 66
27 Boys don't be 'ashamed' to adolescence,
girls enter with a sense of greatness 68
28 The faster the physique of the adolescent develops, the more aggressive he will be ... 70
29 As communication within the family decreases, adolescence problems increase 72
30 Harmony with adolescents increases as they chirp as much as adolescents, not as they become silent74
31 Too maturity in the face of adolescents leads to 'adolescent silence' 76
32 Adolescents find it boring even though they like very mature people 78
33 The adolescent is already prone to dissatisfaction, and it is important not to lay the groundwork for it 80
34 Adolescents need more authority than 'responsibility' 82
35 The adolescent cries when he sees the mosque wall and plays when he sees the Konya spoon; don't worry, watch 84
36 Adolescents enjoy listening to adults listening 86
37 Adolescence begins with a feeling of alienation from the father in boys, and ends with enjoying the father more 88
38 Adolescence in girls starts with getting closer to the mother, continues with conflict, ends with integration 90
39 As the adolescents remain empty, they either eat themselves or their surroundings 92
40 Adolescents who are emotionally weak rather than physical are exposed to peer violence ... 94
41 The adolescent's hand trembles, his face burns; this is neither weird nor bad 96
42 As the adolescent girl's inside trembles, calmness reflects on the outside 98
43 Adolescent responsiveness is due to the need for defense 100
44 In adolescence, a boy is more shy than a girl 102
45 The most obvious symptom of adolescence in boys is guilt104
46 The problem is not to get excited about the opposite sex in adolescence, but to get caught up in this excitement. 106
47 The adolescent experiences his emotions in excess, both his joy and anger ... 108
48 People who were not loved enough in their childhood,
He is like a teenager even though he is an adult 110
49 Young people are fairer than adults 112
50 The dominant feeling of a youth who grew up in an unfair environment; it is selfish 114
51 Adolescents are mentally healthy,
it is clear from creating his own style 116
52 Every adolescent has a unique style in its essence, some reveal it, some hide it in it 118
53 The love that adolescents hates most is artificial love 120
54 What kills a teenager is witnessing his parents' lies 122
55 Adolescents love the natural, not the one who loves them 124
56 Living with adolescents should teach parents to be quiet sometimes, 'even if the heart is unhappy' 126
57 One of the most distinctive characteristics of adolescents is 'forgetfulness' 128
58 To emotionally weak adolescents, problematic people look attractive 130
59 'Inability to cry' in adolescence is a pedagogical problem with inherent depth 132
60 The freedom to be compassionate to her father like a mother is good for any young girl 134
61 The most risky aspect of adolescents is their interest in excitement 136
62 The feeling of worthlessness creates the need to seek someone to whom he will feel valuable 138
63 Fanatic parents have a violent child 140
64 Unlimited internet is not good for adolescents 142
65 Continuous watching TV series creates 'wannabe personality' in adolescents 144
66 Profession preference is also the personality preference of the adolescent 146
67 In career choice guidance, personal predisposition should be more important than the popularity of the profession 148
68 The adolescent's self-centered gaze is not selfish; emotional development 150
69 There are no parents who had a conflict with adolescents and made a profit 152
70 Adolescence is not a problem period, but a purification and spiritual cleansing period 154
71 Boys adolescents are more clumsy than girls 156
72 The fastest behavior of adolescent boys is machismo 158
73 Adolescent girl under pressure tries to defend herself by showing herself pure 160
74 The adolescent is among friends, not because he likes his taste.
starts smoking to avoid exclusion 162
75 Smoking is not nicotine, but the emotion associated with smoking.
starts with addiction 164
76 The most basic education of adolescence is privacy education 166
77 The three major weaknesses of adolescents are magic, mystery and fear 168
78 The most difficult parts of adolescents are the arms 170
79 Boy pays attention to adolescent emotions and girl adolescent physique 172
80 Adolescents' emotional world is prone to negative discourse and music 174
81 Not being able to communicate with adolescents, it is not adolescence 176
82 Adolescents whose thoughts are underestimated feel humiliated 178
83 Puberty is severe for a child who has reached physical puberty but is not yet mentally adolescent 180
84 What bothers adolescents most is being questioned with an adult attitude 182
85 Adolescents receive weekly allowance, not daily allowance 184
86 Adolescents should not be mistaken if they are not taken, young people depend on ambition
feelings wake up quickly 186
87 Childhood years without love lead to 'obsessive belonging' in adolescence 188
88 The most important thing to offer to adolescent children is peer
friendship 190
89 Male adolescents are handsome, girl adolescents are beautiful
they love to hear 192
90 Adolescents learn in life, not at school 194
91 The emotion that adolescents should never lose is hope 196
92 The most obvious manifestation of adolescent depression is the desire to be alone 198
93 The last sign of adolescent depression is daytime sleepiness 200
94 As the adolescent horse rides, he feels his emotion free, the person who feels his emotions freely enjoys life 202
95 Licensing is not freedom of conduct 204
96 Limitless and irresponsible behaviors create inner restlessness, not spiritual relaxation 206
97 Adolescent neither want to sleep nor wake up 208
98 Young people learn from each other more than from the teacher ..... 210
99 Adolescents' behavior education takes place with their peers 212
100 Do not be ashamed of your adolescent child! there is no gentle teen 214
