Secure Connection
Number of Pages: 185
Skin Condition: Paperback
Preface
When we took our first child in our arms, we never thought that parents were so responsible. Yet, nine hundred years ago, Epictetos made the final point for all of us by saying, "The motherland of a man is his childhood. 1" Obviously, it took our time to grasp this fact. Pedagogue Adem Güneş Bey's books and radio programs always accompanied us on this difficult path. We learned a lot thanks to what we read and listened to. Our only goal was not to disturb our child's sense of trust while we were moving forward with a dream, but with enthusiasm. Fortunately, nowadays, when our second daughter is born, we now have a bedside book where we can find answers to all our questions.
I think this work is for not only parents who want to educate themselves, but also adults who find the courage to start everything over. How to appreciate the perfectly created man in essence; It tells how an immature baby slowly becomes attached to his mother, father, family, environment and then life.
I hope Secure Attachment opens new doors in your life and contributes to your parenting consistency.
I wish everyone good reading ...
Tuba Kabacaoğlu
CONTENTS
Getting Started 11
Preface 13
Life Consists of Attachments 15
Connectivity 17
'Sense of Trust' is the Core of Attachment 25
Not feeling the senses 28
Attachment and Resist Attachment 30
Attachment and Will Relations 32
Mind Power 35
Connecting by 3 Contact 36
Skin contact 37
Eye contact 38
Contact with sound 39
The Basis of Attachment: Sleeping with the Mother AO
Babies Sleeping with Moms Get More Peaceful 44
46 If I Hurt My Baby When Lying Together
Does Sleeping With A Baby Damage Her Intimacy? 48
The Magical Link Between Mother and Child: Sucking 49
Secure Attachment Relationship with Nursing 51
Under Which Conditions Should A Pacifier Be Used? 55
Everyday Opportunities for Attachment 57
Secure Attachment and Disease 58
The Father's Role in the Secure Attachment Period 59
Breaking with Mom 63
First Stage: Weaning 64
Second Stage: Toilet Habit 66
Third Stage: Getting Out of Bed 67
Stage Four: Separation from the Room 71
"On Time and Sufficiently" 75
The Mother's Difficulty To Empathize 76
Modern Life and Motherhood 76
Punctual Babies! 80
Meeting the needs "Enough" 82
Neglect, Abuse and Violence 83
Why Does a Mother Violate Her Child? 90
Sense of Inadequacy 90
Mother's Childhood Years 90
Being Self-centered 91
If There Is No Joy Of Living 92
Mom Should Get Sufficient Sleep 92
Having Children in Older Years 93
Psychological Violence, Emotional Violence 93
The Search for a "Port of Shelter" 97
Disrupting the Temperament-Disruption 105
Abuse and Negligence Disrupts the Fitra 108
The Main Purpose Is Not To Teach Behavior 110
Temperament Reveals Needs 111
Insight and Clairvoyance for a Balanced Life 115
What is Insight? 115
The Relationship of Insight to Clairvoyance 119
Penetration, Insight and Clairvoyance 122
Freedom in Emotion, Discipline in Behavior 124
Harmony 125
Those Who Have No Feeling Are Impatient 127
Parents Should Not Turn Off The Inquisition of Children 130
Hear the Opposite 135
Empathy 135
The Relationship Between Empathy and Worthlessness-Guilt 137
Auras and Personality Violations 140
"Atmosphere" 147
Gossiping at Home 147
"Yes, My Mother Is Wrong" 149
"This Outfit Does Not Look For You" 150
Parents Should Not Be Offended 150
"Even If You Treat Me Badly, I Love You So Much" 151
Breaking the Emotional Bond 151
Childhood Feelings Don't Let You Go 152
Crustification of the Atmosphere: Belonging 153
"Lose" 161
Confidence is a Process, Not a Result 161
Maternal Courage 164
Connecting with Trust Feeling 168
The Relationship Between Attachment and Belonging 172
Loss of Gained Confidence 173
When Confidence Is Lost 176
Behavior and Personality Must Separate 180
Final Word: Am I Late for Everything? 183
Notes 186
